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Power Thoughts isn’t a book just to be read. It’s a textbook that needs to be studied and used over and over again. Joyce frequently admits her own struggle in the area of her mind. And like a good teacher, she’s passing on tools she knows work, because they’ve helped her. In her traditional “Mama J” style, with review questions and Power Pack Scriptures placed throughout, Joyce gives us 12 Power Thoughts to help corral our mind. Here’s a sample…
Power Thought 1: I can do whatever I need to do in life through Christ.
This one’s a biggie for me. It’s easy to get into a pity party about doing housework, thinking I’m not making a difference in the world. Then God reminds me that whatever I need to do today, is what He wants me to do and I can do it through Christ’s strength if I will keep my mind on Him!
Joyce encourages us to focus on one Power Thought for a week, posting it on a 3×5 card in visible places around our home or office. Then throughout the day it’s available to review, thus keeping it top of mind. I’ve used this technique over the years with Scripture and affirmations with great success.
Often we don’t realize our problems start with a thought. If we’re depressed, we need to stop and have a “think session.” By reviewing what’s been running through our mind, we’ll find negative thoughts are the culprits. Once we get control of our thoughts, we’ll change our attitude and eventually our actions. Then we can enjoy the life Jesus died for us to have!
No matter what your struggle, thoughts are critical to overcoming any situation. I encourage you to get Power Thoughts: 12 Strategies to Win the Battle of the Mind by Joyce Meyer. Don’t just read it. Really do the work. It can and will change your life…
I offer you twelve “power thoughts” that can revolutionize your life if you will believe them, allow them to take root in your mind, and act on them in your everyday life. ~ Joyce Meyer
|“Step by step… I’m walkin’ on water to a land no man can see” ~ Bryan Duncan|
Having recognized our brokenness in Step One we may feel empty and lost…
“O.K., I’ve admitted I’m powerless. Now what!?”
Our next step will birth hope in us.
Step 2: Came to believe that God could restore us to sanity.
At this stage we are still hurting and fearful of trusting God about anything. But before we can see evidence of real change in our lives, we have to take a step of faith.
We have to step out to find out. Take the leap. Walk out on that branch.
We’ll never know what’s there until we do.
In my experience God honors that courage and meets us at the level of our expectations. Did you catch the little condition here? If our expectations are low, our results will be low. In the same way, if our expectations are high, the results will be high.
For God is working in you, giving you the desire to obey Him and the power to do what pleases Him. ~ Philippians 2:13
This Scripture is one of my favorite verses in the Bible. I like to break it down like this:
First of all, God’s going to give me the desire to do what He wants me to do. It doesn’t stop there. He’s going to give me the power to do it, too.
You may say, “That’s awesome! But it looks like God’s doing all the work. What do I have to do?”
Step Two gives us new hope as we begin to see help is available. We must simply reach out and accept what God has to offer. Here a spiritual foundation forms that will help us grow into the person we want to be. All we need to do is be willing to take the step.
Remember, God never asks us to do anything without first giving us the ability to do it.
You may want to pray this prayer:
In humility I pray to believe in the only Power greater than myself–God. Give me increased faith so I won’t be crazy any more.
I hope you enjoy the theme song for our Working the Twelve Steps Series:
Step by Step by @Bryan_Duncan
Copyright © 2012 Reaching Hurting Women Ministry
We started the first week of the year working Step One. Next, I shared a review of my new favorite book. And in week three we started our series Virtues-n-Vices with the topic of Honesty. This week we begin a series of posts called Healing Hurts with the focus today on Denial.
Denial: is a defense mechanism in which a person, faced with an uncomfortable fact, rejects it, insisting that it isn’t true despite overwhelming evidence. It’s an unrealistic hope that a problem is not really happening.
We use one of the following…
- Simple denial: denying the reality of the unpleasant reality altogether.
- Minimization: admitting the reality but denying it’s seriousness (rationalization).
- Projection: admit both the reality and the seriousness but deny any responsibility.
Denial is serious. We can’t heal as long as we pretend our hurts don’t exist.
The Celebrate Recovery Bible lists six negative effects DENIAL has on our lives:
D – isables our feelings
E – nergy drain
N – egates our growth
I – solates us from God
A – lienates us from other human relationships
L – engthens our pain
The bottom line…
The faster we engage (feel) our feelings, even though it hurts, the quicker the pain will end and our life will truly be happier.
God will be with us if we will just let Him into the pain with us.
Press through the pain, step out of denial into the victory of freedom! Trust God, He will take care of you!
Listen to this sweet song as you receive God’s help…
Copyright © 2012 Reaching Hurting Women Ministry
Last year I was privileged to take a wonderful class called Christian Virtue. What a joy it was to be with a group of ladies all wanting to be more virtuous for the Lord. While praying for the direction of my blog, God impressed me to begin sharing what I learned in that class. This year I will devote the third week of each month to a particular virtue that I believe relates to areas women struggle with.
Let’s start first with definitions…
Virtue: a positive trait deemed morally excellent; a valued foundation of good moral behavior.
Vice: a habitual practice of wrongdoing, essentially corruption of the virtue.
Sadly, our modern culture doesn’t put a lot of emphasis on virtue these days. However, if we listen to conversations around dinner tables or watch the evening news, it’s easy to see most of the problems we face relate directly to the lack of virtue in our world today.
Honesty: the quality of being honest, upright; truthful, sincere; freedom from deceit.
There are two ways we can look at this virtue: honesty with ourselves and our honesty with others. More than likely, if we’re not being honest with ourselves, we probably aren’t being honest with others either.
Often, we see a virtue and think to ourselves, I’m an honest person. I don’t really need to work on this one. I’ve found by looking at the opposing sin or vice, I see better my areas of weakness.
Vices: Dishonesty, duplicity, cheating, lying, deception, treachery
As a recovering addict, I’m all too familiar with the above list of vices. What a relief it was when I was finally able to be honest with my husband after being deceptive for many years.
An honest life is a simpler life. You don’t have to remember all the lies you’ve told!
No matter what our struggles are, we can’t deal with them unless we are first honest with God and with ourselves.
Take just a moment… Ask God to show you where you are being dishonest. He is always faithful to reveal our brokenness when we are willing to make the change.
Without beating ourselves up for past behavior, let’s go forward a new creation today!
Enjoy the music video below as you meditate on your fresh start!
Copyright © 2012 Reaching Hurting Women Ministry
Think Differently Live Differently ~ Keys to a Life of Freedom
Thinking Differently Press 2010
I can’t think of a better way to start this new year than to review the book I’ve placed at the top of my recommended reading list!
In 2008, my husband, Bill, and I were blessed with the opportunity to participate in Freedom Ministry at Gateway Church in Southlake,Texas. It was there I first encountered the incredible gift Bob Hamp has for communicating spiritual principles. Not unlike the parables in the Gospels, Bob’s stories tug at your heart strings while imparting truths you can easily understand and apply to daily life.
A culmination of life-long spiritual growth and years of counseling experience, Think Differently Live Differently lives up to its title. Through beautiful analogies and humor woven among the teaching, we are drawn into a story that completely changes the way we see original sin, our Creator and ultimately ourselves. With this new perspective comes revelation and suddenly we find freedom as never presented before.
There are few books I will push this strongly. It’s a must read for everyone!
After all isn’t true freedom what we’re all looking for?
We admitted we were powerless over our dependencies–that our life had become unmanageable.
In October 2004, in a last ditch effort to deal with my addiction, my husband, Bill, asked me to go with him to a couples seminar. Dr. Doug Weiss from Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs was to be speaking on his book Intimacy ~ A 100 Day Guide to Lasting Relationships.
Reluctantly I agreed.
With my defenses up, I was nervous, but the small group of couples was friendly and inviting. Dr.Weiss spoke from his heart about how he had grown up with a sex addict for a mom. Because of her addiction he was shuffled back and forth from her home to foster homes. Through his mother’s bad influence Dr.Weiss became addicted to sex and pornography at a very young age.
Transparent and real, Dr.Weiss seemed to understand the pain I had. As I listened, I realized for the first time he was talking about me. I was just like his mom.
I was a sex addict.
When Bill and I returned for the Saturday morning session I was anxious to tell Dr.Weiss I wanted to go to Colorado for a 3-Day Intensive Counseling Session. I left the seminar scared but hopeful because I knew help was available.
After all the sex, drugs, alcohol, running away, therapy, medication and jail time; I was finally able to see the truth of my own addiction.
It was a miracle. It was the beginning of my recovery.
The first step is always the hardest. It can be scary and humiliating to admit powerlessness, especially for someone who likes to be in control. And all addicts think they have everything under control.
We must come to a realization that not only are we powerless over our addiction, but over ourselves as sinners. We can’t do anything without the healing power of Jesus Christ.
I don’t understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. No matter which way I turn, I can’t make myself do right. I want to, but I can’t… Oh what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. ~ Romans 7:15; 18; 24-25 NLT
You may want to pray something like this…
Denial has kept me from seeing how powerless I am and how unmanageable my life has become. Today, I ask for help to deal with my addiction / co-dependency.
This time of year there’s a lot of talk about New Year’s Resolutions. Some people take them seriously–others not so much.
With the traditional resolution route we are depending on our own discipline and will power to make changes occur. By speaking declarations based on God’s Word we are depending on His power and strength to bring the needed changes about.
For several years I’ve been speaking the declarations listed below and have seen marvelous changes take place as a result.
Start today! Speak the creative power of God’s Word over your life and you too will see incredible changes before you know it!
Declare Your Blessings!
- I declare I am blessed with God’s supernatural wisdom and I have a clear direction for my life.
- I declare I am blessed with creativity, courage, ability and abundance.
- I declare I am blessed with a strong will, with self-control and self-discipline.
- I declare I am blessed with a great family, good friends, with good health, with faith, favor and fulfillment.
- I declare I am blessed with success, with supernatural strength, with promotion, and divine protection.
- I declare I am blessed with an obedient heart and with a positive outlook on life.
- I declare any curse that’s ever been spoken over me, any negative evil word that’s ever come against me is broken right now.
- I declare I am blessed in the city; I’m blessed in the country. I’m blessed when I go in and when I come out.
- I declare everything I put my hands to will prosper and succeed.
- I declare I AM BLESSED in Jesus’ name!***
***Excerpt from Joel Osteen’s Hope for Today Bible
|Lust is our warning that danger is ahead.|
In today’s media-driven, pornography-accepting world, you don’t hear much about lust. Most people won’t admit they do it, much less admit they have a problem with it.
When I was an active sex addict lust ruled my life. It didn’t matter what sparked it… once the idea or image was in my mind, the game was on. And sure as the sun comes up, trouble was ahead. It might not show up today or even tomorrow, but it was coming.
…don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. ~ Matthew 5:28 MSG
Some will argue that it’s alright to break God’s rules as long as no one gets hurt. But the truth is, someone always gets hurt. God doesn’t have rules to keep us from having a good time, but to help us not destroy our lives. Just like a loving parent puts boundaries on a young child for their safety; God’s rules are for our protection.
Take it from someone who knows from experience… Lust is dangerous! From a generational perspective, the lust my father gave in to when I was a child had serious effects on me that I still deal with today. Lust was at the foundation of many bad things that happened in my marriage and my family.
We must beware when attracted to another person we aren’t married to. If given in to, our desires may lead us somewhere we don’t want to go. Lust is a warning sign from God. To stay strong, we must immediately ask God to change our desires before we are drawn into sin.
So anyone who thinks they are standing strong should be careful that they don’t fall. The only temptations that you have are the same temptations that all people have. But you can trust God. He will not let you be tempted more than you can bear. But when you are tempted, God will also give you a way to escape that temptation. Then you will be able to endure it. ~ 1 Corinthians 10:12-13 ERV
Stay Strong by The Newsboys…
December… the perfect month to focus on Step 12:
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
We are all recovering from something: hurts, habits or hang-ups. And if we’re recovering, that means someone helped us overcome our problem. And if it was Christ, we must tell others.
When I was homeschooling my children in the 90’s we had The 21 Rules of This House by Gregg Harris on our refrigerator. (still do by the way) One of my favorites is Rule #11: When we have something nice to share, we share it.
What better gift to give someone who’s hurting than your story out of bondage into freedom!
This Christmas season, give hope to someone; take an opportunity to share what God has done in your life. I believe people are more receptive to The Good News this time of year than any other.
For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, and wrong… slaves to passions and pleasures of all kinds… But when the kindness and love of God our Savior was revealed, he saved us… God poured out the Holy Spirit abundantly on us through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that by his grace we might be put right with God and come into possession of the eternal life we hope for. This is a true saying. ~Titus 3:3-8