|Are you always trying to measure up to others?
Growing up, and even as an adult, I was always comparing myself to others. I don’t know about you, but I could never measure up. Clothes, hair, intelligence, abilities… it didn’t matter. I had myself under a microscope seeing every fault but never seeing the good. This kept me in a constant state of discouragement and feeling inferior to everyone.
When we grow up in an environment where individuality isn’t celebrated or encouraged, it’s very difficult to see ourselves as valuable. I don’t blame my parents, I know they did the best they could with what they had. Particularly because, they probably didn’t get the encouragement they needed as children either.
I am so thankful today for the gift of God’s Word that speaks truth into my life. That is the only way I can keep my head on straight. To see myself, the good, bad and the ugly; knowing that makes me who I am. God knows my weaknesses and my strengths. And if I turn them all over to Him, He can use them to do something wonderful.
Be intentional. Be committed. To walk according to God’s Truth. Finding His promises and declaring them over our life each and every day will keep us in the right frame of mind, appreciating ourselves in the big scheme of God’s plan. Our standards can only be His standards for our life and for what He designed us to be and do.
When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. ~ 2 Corinthians 10:12
Do you struggle with feelings of inferiority? How are you working through that?
Inadequacy, Inferiority, Low Self-esteem, Poor Self-worth, Self-loathing…
These and other related emotional issues are prevalent in our society today not just among young girls, tweens and adolescents, but women of all ages from all walks of life.
Feelings of inadequacy usually have their roots in childhood hurts and wounds, a dysfunctional family environment, emotionally abusive parents, critical or shaming authority figures, and cruel peers.
The media and culture has created unattainable standards of beauty, power, wealth and fame that also trigger feelings of inadequacy. Even though we’re healthy and have all our basic needs met, we obsess over our body, clothes, job, and possessions, worried that they don’t measure up.
Inadequacy causes us to drift along in life with no purpose or meaning. We build our lives on philosophy, self-reliance, human morality, ethics, wealth, power, or self-interest and find ourselves on a shaky foundation with nothing of substance holding us up.
Do you struggle with inadequacy, low self-worth, inferiority? Are you…
- Fearful of failure and avoid taking risks
- Desperate for approval from others
- Unable to set boundaries
- Ashamed of your background
- Unhappy with personal appearance and achievements
- Constantly comparing yourself to others
How can we get off this treadmill of torture, depression and despair?
Overcome self-defeating statements, acquire a positive self-image and learn to value yourself as God does.
Read aloud and receive the following 7 truths about yourself:
- I accept God’s Word that I am created in His image. (Genesis 1:27)
- I accept myself as being acceptable to Christ. (Romans 15:7)
- I accept what I cannot change about myself. (Romans 9:20-21)
- I accept the fact that I will make mistakes. (Philippians 3:12-14)
- I accept criticism and the responsibility for failure. (Psalm 32:5)
- I accept that I will not be liked or loved by everyone. (John 15:18,20)
- I accept the unchangeable circumstances in my life. (Philippians 4:11)
Looking at life through eternal lenses changes our whole outlook. Seeing God’s purpose and plan in all things daily can help us accept who and where we are, to be more stable in the now – for the future.
The Lord your God has chosen you out of all the peoples on the face of the earth to be His people, his treasured possession. ~ Deuteronomy 7:6
In 2005, fresh out of addiction and feeling completely unworthy of God’s love, I was blown away with the revelation that I Am A Friend Of God. This is still one of my favorite worship songs. I hope you enjoy this music video by @IsraelHoughton as you soak up God’s love for you! Blessings! http://youtu.be/ZXFi6lUUz5s
Biblical Counseling Keys: Self-Worth by June Hunt www.HopeForTheHeart.org
Life Recovery Bible